03 Dec Chapter 52 : Lead , dont Deal
Yesterday, I my client Rahul (not his real name! )sat over coffee to discuss his problem in business and his pain in laying off people from his company due to business challenges. I listened to him then we had lots of discussion on lead vs deal. I am sharing this so that it can support you if you have the same or another challenge. Before starting, let me acknowledge that everybody passes through tough times including me first of all we need to accept the tough times, and struggles to win.
Here, I would like to give credit to Suresh Kalathiya and @jiteshkapadia as I have gathered all this wisdom from both of them one year ago during our sessions.
Let’s begin with what has been told to Rahul so that he can come out of his dilemma and start taking action. here you can consider that it’s your problem to get the best benefit of this article.
If you feel that you cannot do anything now as you are in trouble and facing many problems in your life and work then you are not leading life but you are dealing with life.
We must have heard about the rabbit and lion story. Think how rabbit has solved the big problem.
See, depression is all about I didn’t achieve my targets, and goals and I don’t have the fulfilment of what I have. Here we need to think about this. Depression is when we feel like giving up everything we are doing or dealing with the circumstances and doing nothing when faced with hardship or adversity or mentally believing that there is nothing we can do now.
વિપત પડે નવલખીએ, વલખે વિપત ન જાય; વિપતે ઉદ્યમ કીજિયે ઉદ્યમ વિપતને ખાય;
It simply said in the above lines that if you feel that I am in trouble then increase your troubles to expand yourself. It says that one should not be anxious or depressed challenges are coming in life. wonderful solution is also given in the above line is, when you are facing troubles then do hard work. Your every effort will be answered. Like a farmer has faith that rain will come and my job is to sow seed now. The farmer does hard work when he doesn’t see rain. After some time rain will come and whole his hard work give him results.
When you are doing hard work to achieve your goals anyhow, in circumstances you will find a way to reach it. Your job is to be consistent towards your purpose. Changes are inevitable and your hard work will eat challenges on your way to achieving your goal. If you do not do the hard work then it will eat your dreams, hopes and enthusiasm.
Here, I am giving you a breakthrough; if you think that I am not depressed but I am confused then it will be a great shift in your way of being. YES, one should get confused about finding the way to reach to goal not depressed.
Confusion is a good state, during confusion one thinks about finding the way to do marketing, sales and solving problems. As a human being, our purpose is to serve humans and so we must have the context to make our service our product available for all. Now you should do hard work to make your service available for all and then automatically you will get results.
Coming out from problems or challenges is like solving a tangled string
The best way to untangle is to get hold of one end and gently shake out the crossovers. If you get anxious about the problem then you will never be able to solve it. It’s time to be released, calm and find the end of the string then with patience open it in such a way that the string itself gets untangled.
So my dear confused leader ( you are depressed !),
Do hard work for today, spend your 8 hours in the right work today, don’t think much about the past and even don’t create BIG goals for the future. Take action now to generate 1 % results.
Let me give you access to the book “master your emotion” by Thibaut Meurisse.
Consider you are in traffic and now there is no chance to come out from it for the next 1 hour anyhow.
Now, how will feel when stuck in traffic?
See you can’t do anything there because it’s completely not your control.
Now at this moment, just get present to your emotions and accept that you feeling stressed due to traffic. When you accept your emotion, your mind get calm it will feel stressed and start worrying about the future.
Now see, when you accept the situation as it is you will start thinking about reducing the impact. You will call the person and inform him that I will get late and I am in traffic that will again make you relax and you will call friends to have a gossip, you will start to music and enjoy this “ MEtime’ you got due to sudden traffic attack in your way.
Se friends,
Here my context is to let you realise that if you are stuck or depressed then just focus on why have you started what you are doing now ?, do 8 hours of work honestly, be relaxed, accept your emotions and stop getting much knowledge from outside just do meditation and find what my strength is ?, how can I make this world better through my small efforts.
Mukhwas :
कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन । मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भुर्मा ते संगोऽस्त्वकर्मणि ॥
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